Autstigation?

Being that I am an Autistic who is progressing toward holy marimony, I have thought of what might happen with the concept of disability in our union. (disability being a social construction only) I believe as a Christian that in mariage, the two become one. So when my fiance and I marry, does she become disabled? It is easier for this to happen if she understands the sacrimental nature of marriage, which she does, but I am not sure whether or not she would take on the opression of society when we say "I do." I believe she loves me, desires to be a team player in our life's journey, and there is a term, Aspergation, that floats about a lot of online communities, when applied to a person, means that a non-Aspie takes on the traits of being Aspie during the course of a close relationship. Many people in the Autistic universe have noticed that non-Aspies sometimes convert to our brand of spirituality. This is not a willful thing, but one of reflecting qualities of the other in a close relationship. Love is a powerful and at times, quite transformative.

I have a word, Autstigation, which is similar but refers to the whole Autistic universe. In the presidential speach delivered before the American Psychological Associaion in 1949, there was a word that Gardner Murphy came up with, Socially Shared Autism, which described people in liturgical faith prectices (e.g. Catholic, Jew, etc.), and in academic professions and others all-consuming, that entered into Autistic states in groups during ritual activities, but were able to exit said group and the state they were in at will. Maybe, as some non-Autistic spouses enter into marriage, they becomes Autistic to a degree, but are only able to leave that state in divorce? Is this a stronger state of Socially Shared Autism? Now, I am not saying that I think my fiance is compleatly undiagnoseable in the Autism universe. From the beginning of our relationship she demonstrated traits that indicated a possible Aspie label, but during the course of being together, she has blossomed into a bolder, blunter woman who seems more Aspie with each passing day. Part of it is that I know her better, but another part I believe is that we are becomming one. Another option is that I know her better and love her more now than I did when I first knew met her, and all of us have a blunt streak...maybe...I am only starting to think about this topic, so I am not compleatly clear how this applies to our life, nor am I clear how this could apply to other disabilities, hidden or physical. Maybe it is just an Autistic phenomena. Who knows? I will post more on this topic at a latter date.